In public, I get a lot of assistance from strangers, but sometimes, my family forget I am visually impaired.
What can I say people …?
It is true, in public, strangers will bend over backwards to assist me. This can be great sometimes, whereas at other times, I feel like people think I’m incapable of looking after myself. As a proudly independent person, I like trying things before asking for assistance.
What fundamentally grounds me is my family. Don’t get me wrong, they help me in a lot of ways, but in others, they forget that I have a disability. They have also told me that from time to time.
We were invited to a function where we had to listen to some speeches and after the formalities, they had finger food and drinks. For about half an hour, my wife and I spoke to some of the participants, while my kids stuffed their faces with the absolutely amazing food. I have a theory about kids and food. Anything free is like Christmas to them.
Anyway, at the end of the day, my wife and I were talking to the event organiser and thanking her for inviting us. In a flash, my wife spun around and yelled to the kids to move it and get in the car. In the blink of an eye, my wife and kids were gone, and Bree and I were left standing by the door.
I didn’t move because I was in an unfamiliar venue, it was dark, and Bree was busy hoovering all the crumbs off the floor. We stood waiting there for about five minutes. Now, my wife doesn’t generally swear but on this occasion, she let it fly.
What had actually happened was she jumped in the car, with the kids and drove home. Once they got into the garage, both kids asked where I was and that’s when my wife realised I wasn’t in the car. With this realisation, she drove back to the venue, swore and apologised to me and then helped me to the car to go home.
So, what did I learn?
When it comes to my family, and we are leaving a venue, I now make a big song and dance so that they remember to take me along with them.